4/30/13

On Marriage...

Kyle and I celebrated two years of marriage last week. This made me reflect on the foundation of marriage, and what we have learned from this time. By no means have we become experts, but I like to think from time to time we do something right. 
One thing Kyle has taught me is to not judge by appearance. So many people appear to have perfect marriages from the looks of it. It's deceitful. Then again, why would we showcase the negative, as if it's something to show off. Let it be known though, (I speak for just us, but I'm certain most agree) that we have a less than perfect marriage. 

 We have fought. We have cried. Mistakes abound. But we are also truly happy.

Here are some of our lessons learned: 

1. Your words dictate EVERYTHING. The way you speak to one another is a vicious cycle. For us, Kyle will say, well you spoke this way, so I started to treat you this way, and I'll say, well you treated me this way, so I spoke to you this way. WRONG. You cannot get rid of darkness with more darkness. There must be light. 
Proverbs 15:1 sheds beautiful wisdom on this: "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." 

2. Recognize that I am my biggest enemy. We spend much of the time ignoring our faults in marriage, because we are too angry and busy noticing our spouse's. When you do find what it is that you do wrong, and honestly get with yourself to fix it, it is again-another cycle. Humans are re-acting creatures. We act because someone acted towards us. When we fix our own problem, it blesses your spouses, and us as well, because your attitude toward him will dictate his attitude toward you.


3. Learn to argue. Marriages end up in divorce, undoubtedly because they didn't learn how to argue. Arguing is a part of marriage. No two different beings, with different backgrounds and brains will always agree. I say marriages end because of poor arguing, because while there are wrongs like infidelity and finance issues, amongst others, all of those end up in arguments. Our solution is to find a way, in the midst of your anger, to argue civilly. For me, I literally will run and lock myself away in the bathroom and pray for two seconds. "God, help me to not sin in my anger. Help me to see him like you see him." This helps me because, one, I take the focus off myself, which gives me time to think more clearly, and two, because it makes me remember that ultimately, it is God who I need to please. I once heard of a couple who when they argue, they hold hands and look into each other's eyes. Whatever it is, find something to calm your anger, then speak with common sense, as if what you are saying was being said to you.

4. Give a little. Goodness gracious, what would it be like if we held each other to a standard of grace and not perfection? It's easy to expect. I am guilty as charged. At the minimum, we expect that our spouse would do for us, the same amount that we would do for them. But if when we are disappointed, whether rightly so or not, we take a moment to place our mind and heart in a graceful attitude, we may just avoid an argument, raising our own blood pressure, and extending a little of the grace that is so generously given to us. I mean, how good does it feel to get caught speeding and being told, "I'll let you go this time." Darn good. Can we just "let it go this time?" I think a lot of times we can. And to go a step further, sometimes, when choosing to let it go, you don't even have to tell your spouse, it's just out of the goodness of your heart. For instance, Kyle will leave a pile of dirty clothes on the floor. Two options: get mad and rightly tell him so, or pick it up and never say a word about it. Of course if it's something that happens frequently, then you should discuss, but for that time, I can just give a little grace, and be happy.

5. Make memories. We are our own family now. What we create now is going to pass on to generations. It's important. I like the thought of making our own traditions. Silly things like going on walks on Wednesday nights, or cooking together on Saturdays. Whatever little thing, as insignificant as it may be now, just may be the glue that holds on in years to come. It may be what your grandkids do with their spouse one day. Or it may be what you look back on ten years from now and realize how much you cherish that intentional time. Make a big deal of your life together. It's really a once in a lifetime thing. Whether you're going to get groceries or a new car, realize what a gif it is, that of all the things in the world that could be happening to you, of all the places you could have ended up in, you are SO blessed, that ended up with this one person to love. It's worth all the effort, and it's something to protect. We say, take pictures, and laugh, because "the trouble is, you think you have time."

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4/29/13

{In Colombia}


Kyle and I took an anniversary trip to my homeland, Colombia. Did y'all know that although I was raised in Memphis, TN and everything about me is Southern through and through, I was actually made in Colombia? Full blood Spanish. This country is a charm and a half. Ask Paris, she was here the same week as us (Celeb status) ;) Anywho, this trip was needed. It's funny, different cultures really do shape you. While we took this trip to celebrate our second wedding anniversary, I feel like it refreshed us as people in general. Most of the Colombian population is so poor, yet so happy. They fill you with their generosity and welcoming spirits. Being unplugged from technology was a plus too. Kyle and I got to really enjoy each other's company, and be surrounded by my family. Man, I sure do miss that bunch. Spending time with my sister and her amazing little family was so wonderful. 
For a recap- well, we watched a lot of TV, ate a lot of food, slept a lot, did spa time, shopped, and played with the two best twin nephews in this planet. the besttttt. 
Our hearts need a little filling once in a while, don't they? I find that when I'm away, I get to put my priorities in order. Praying, reading the Word, loving my family, and reflecting on the things in my life. A quote that gathers my thoughts is "you will find that it is necessary to let things go, simply for the reason that they are heavy." 
After the ten days were over, I had to have a small sinus surgery, so I stayed for an extra week. Now I'm en route back home, back to real life. Except with a bandaged face. 

Have a great one, and THANK YOU for reading!


4/26/13

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4/21/13

Buttoned Up


 The streets of Colombia are oh so quaint. Chilly walks, Spanish tile roofs, mountain views, colorful flowers abundant, and this type of architecture. We've had a wonderful time filled with amazing Colombian food, (Kyle was introduced to the Spanish custom of eating 654 times a day) I was merely reminded of it and the many gym sessions ahead. We've been able to spend time with my family, which we only get to do about once a year, and most of all, relax. THAT WORD. Sleeping in, hiking, cuddling, NO ALARMS. And my goodness, no technology. Technology free? Who would ever know  this joy. We left our phones at home, and I checked my email at night. It's amazing how much more you can focus on when you're not hooked to a device. Like playing soccer with your nephews and kissing your husband more ;)


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4/15/13

Boho Layers



 Purse: c/o choies / Shoes: Madewell / Dress: F21 / Vest: Sheinside 

These are currently my favorite shoes! They are my little investment Spring piece. They can add the perfect boho touch to an outfit, and are super comfortable! And I notice I don't know how to just wear one piece. I have to layer! A dress? no!! because 90 degrees, on the beach, sun beating on me deserves a vest, and maybe even a jacket. Six layers of clothing will never be enough. And they ask how we have full closets and never have anything to wear...well if you're wearing thirty six pieces at a time, it's perfectly understandable. 

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4/14/13

Happy Anniversary!!




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We have had the best year yet! Every day is the new best (minus the ones I'm pms'ing and you put up with me), you really are a blast and it is a happy chance that I get to spend my life with you!  
Happy Second Anniversary my ride or die!!! 
You make life so much fun! 
Here's a couple things I am thankful you do:
- laugh at my jokes 
-sing Lee Brice loud and meaningfully painful for the ears 
-sit on the sandbars with me and get sunburnt 
-take countless pictures documenting what I wear for this blog 
-making the BEST banana, bacon, peanut butter sandwiches 
-loving bacon ALMOST as much as I 
- Making sure we keep up with our weekly TV shows 
-Stocking up on Blue Bell ice cream weekly
-your wisdom on which shoes I should wear
-and loving me, quietly and patiently like you do. 
I think it's time I tell you...we should get jersey's cause' we make a good team ;) 
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4/12/13

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