2. Recognize that I am my biggest enemy. We spend much of the time ignoring our faults in marriage, because we are too angry and busy noticing our spouse's. When you do find what it is that you do wrong, and honestly get with yourself to fix it, it is again-another cycle. Humans are re-acting creatures. We act because someone acted towards us. When we fix our own problem, it blesses your spouses, and us as well, because your attitude toward him will dictate his attitude toward you.
3. Learn to argue. Marriages end up in divorce, undoubtedly because they didn't learn how to argue. Arguing is a part of marriage. No two different beings, with different backgrounds and brains will always agree. I say marriages end because of poor arguing, because while there are wrongs like infidelity and finance issues, amongst others, all of those end up in arguments. Our solution is to find a way, in the midst of your anger, to argue civilly. For me, I literally will run and lock myself away in the bathroom and pray for two seconds. "God, help me to not sin in my anger. Help me to see him like you see him." This helps me because, one, I take the focus off myself, which gives me time to think more clearly, and two, because it makes me remember that ultimately, it is God who I need to please. I once heard of a couple who when they argue, they hold hands and look into each other's eyes. Whatever it is, find something to calm your anger, then speak with common sense, as if what you are saying was being said to you.
5. Make memories. We are our own family now. What we create now is going to pass on to generations. It's important. I like the thought of making our own traditions. Silly things like going on walks on Wednesday nights, or cooking together on Saturdays. Whatever little thing, as insignificant as it may be now, just may be the glue that holds on in years to come. It may be what your grandkids do with their spouse one day. Or it may be what you look back on ten years from now and realize how much you cherish that intentional time. Make a big deal of your life together. It's really a once in a lifetime thing. Whether you're going to get groceries or a new car, realize what a gif it is, that of all the things in the world that could be happening to you, of all the places you could have ended up in, you are SO blessed, that ended up with this one person to love. It's worth all the effort, and it's something to protect. We say, take pictures, and laugh, because "the trouble is, you think you have time."
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