Things I've Learned

Get Off Your Phone
Social media is a collection of people's cute moments. Not their lives. It shouldn't be yours. Take a day off of it. Live your life. Make memories so good that you don't feel the need to capture them on your phone. There are people around you waiting on a chance to talk to you, undivided attention. Put the phone down. It is not life or death to answer every text. You don't know when the last moment you'll have with someone is, and you'd feel like a real ass if you spent it half on your phone/half listening to them. Putting down your phone gives you a chance to think. Be professional and productive. They don't pay you at work to answer texts, so take the time to build your experience and suck knowledge out of everything. And when you do pick up your phone, call someone. Don't be part of the sloppy bunch who text all the time, instead of being personal and calling. You're never too tech savy to hear the voice of a loved one. 
Uncomplicate Life
I stand amazed that I am bothered by people who ignore me, and ignore people who are always there for me. The thrill of the chase is one of dumbest things I know, yet I do it. 

Give, Give, Give
"The world of the generous gets larger and larger, the world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller." Proverbs 11:24. Being generous is a trait of endless value. Getting less of what you want to give to others will make a real difference. There are so many things we don't need. Give them away, or don't buy them. In every chance you get, trust that you get what you give, so give. 

Spend your Time Wisely 
I'm a procrastinator is something I hear people say as proudly as if they were saying I'm a millionaire. Time is the one thing you will regret if misspent. You can't get it back. Think of every day that has passed with you saying I will do this..soon. I have wanted to volunteer at a children's home for two years now, and have sadly never gotten up and just done it. Nike's "Just Do It" slogan creator is a wise man. Time is an equal opportunity employer, no one gets more hours in a day than the other. Everybody gets a fair start each morning. What good you do with it is each man's trophy. 

Men will be Men
I married a good man. A stand up guy. But I dated some that weren't. And I've learned that if a man really wants to be with you, nothing will stop him from being with you. Consider men as they are, not how you want them to be. If you are wondering why he hasn't called, its because he's not thinking about you. If he's too busy for you, keep in mind that men are never too busy to get what they want. A man who wants to make your relationship work will make sure you know he is willing and able to move mountains for you. Don't let anyone play with your heart. If he broke it off, and is missing you now, he is only missing you because he thought he could find something better out there, and you are his option. You are nobody's option, Ricky Bobby taught you that if you ain't first you're last. Don't be with someone who disappoints you, if he is okay with letting you down and disregarding your feelings,  he's an asshole, and you already have one, you don't need two.  

Be Patient and Have Faith 
Sometimes things you want take a long time to come. God promised Abraham and Sarah they would have a child, and it took 23 years before that promise came to fruition (Genesis 15). I hope I don't have to wait 23 years for something to happen, but I may have to wait two or five. I don't know. I just know that between goals is a thing called life, and I will be a more satisfied person if I can be happy today, with what I have right now and not anxiously waiting. A lot of times, things don't happen when we think they will, or as fast as we hope, but timing is everything, and when you can't make things happen, you have to have faith. Faith that admits you are not in control, and God must intervene and make the impossible happen. If we could make it happen, we wouldn't need faith or God. "If we already have something, we don’t need to hope for it. But if we look forward to something we don’t yet have, we must wait patiently and confidently" Romans 8:24. 

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  1. Loved this Nicholl - every.word.of.it :) Especially the line about Ricky Bobby ;)

  2. So.True. Back when Miley Cyrus was still Hannah Montana she quit twitter and wrote a rap about it. There's a line in there "Stop living for moments and start living for people." We're trying so hard to capture every moment, know everything, and not miss anything that we aren't really living. I kept trying to take pics of my first trip to Disney last year. It was taking up so much time and effort that I packed the camera away so I could really enjoy the park, and I had WAY more fun!

  3. Love this!! The men will be men one is a big one. I hate seeing friends accept less then what they deserve from men and assuming "that's just the way relationships are." No, that's not the way they are. They should be fulfilling and not just a one way street. I'm also trying to be very aware of the time spent on my phone. When I'm not on it I don't miss a thing! It's really not that important.

  4. i feel like you just bitch slapped me.
    but like in a good way.

    this was lovely lady.

  5. This is such a moving post Nicholl! I really love when you share things like this, they are so refreshing to read.

    Chelsea & The City

  6. This, this and more of THIS. What a beautiful post, Nicole. Thank you for sharing and for the reminder ... especially #1 and #2!! xo

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